The last decade has seen an explosion in the number of online dating sites around the world, and the number of people using them.According to some estimates, there are over 8,000 online dating sites worldwide, and over 2,500 in the US alone.If you’ve ever created an online dating profile for yourself, you know that it only scratches the surface of what you’re like.No profile, no matter how well-written, could ever hope to capture the full extent of your personality.Your reasons for finding someone are often broader and more diverse; you may not even be really sure if it’s romance you’re looking for at all.Add those complications to the fact that online dating is, for many people, a thoroughly dispiriting experience, and it’s no wonder that older adults are more likely to rate it as a negative experience than any other demographic. If people are finding love through online dating sites, why does it fail so many others?These days, it is often the first option for someone looking for romance, not the last.The industry has completely transformed a fundamental aspect of human communication, changing how we meet new people and go looking for partners.
They found that just over 84,440 people in the UK fit the average person’s requirements, from an adult population of 47 million. In other words, applying the average person’s filters when it comes to finding a compatible partner gives you less than a 1 in 500 chance of being successful.What they don’t ever make clear is that each filter you add diminishes your chances of finding a compatible partner even further.Forget 1 in 562, you could literally be talking about 1 in a million.Nobody’s profile really represents what they’re like in real life.And as a result, you will either underestimate them – and dismiss someone who could be a good match – or else overestimate them and then be disappointed when you meet in person.Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people.According to some estimates, over a third of marriages in the US are now from couples who first met online.To make matters worse, most people suck at selling themselves, and do a terrible job of their profiles.And, of course, the ones who good at selling themselves generally do so by misrepresenting themselves to some extent.In the US, online dating is now the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet (behind introductions through friends). After millions of years of human evolution, and thousands of years of the development of human society, humans had settled on the idea that in-person interactions through fun, face-to-face social activities were the best way to meet new people.And then along came online dating to blow that idea away.The promise of making it easier to find your “ideal” companion by letting you add filters to hone in on specific requirements has actually had the opposite effect, diminishing your pool to the point it becomes almost impossible to find anyone!Before online dating existed, finding a compatible fit was far less clinical; you’d meet someone in real life, and if you enjoyed their company you might decide to on another date, maybe more.(Interestingly, that definition of “meeting online” includes more than just online dating sites, and includes all sorts of social networks and online communication.) But for many people, there is a growing body of evidence that online dating simply doesn’t work. If you’re aged 50 or over, finding a partner online is even more complicated.