We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.
Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.
I’m literally petrified of making the same mistake again and of ever hurting another living soul again, I’ve been bad, I’ve made mistakes and I’ve taken advantage of people, now I’m trying, very hard not to be that person again and that includes treating women as people, with thoughts and feelings, hopes and fears and dreams.
It’s difficult in the uni dorm I’m in, considering most people I meet socially are either drunk (I’m stone cold sober) or do the whole ‘one night stand’ routine which to me is appalling.
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This will serve you well when you meet someone who is single and who has the qualities you like.
I get really confused and I pick up a lot of body language, but I have no understanding of social cues. Dear Awkward & Lonely: My own time as a Nice Girl(tm) is well-documented on this blog, so, take hope?
I’m getting incredibly lonely and yes before you say it, I did behave like a nice guy tm once and just once.
I was an ass, I made an incredible fool of myself, I traumatized my friends and worst of all, I hurt that poor girls feelings.
I know it’s a bummer to get crushes on people who are already coupled up, but you are sparking with people!
This means that you are recognizing what you like in a person, and learning more about who you are really attracted to.