Which means you can dash in and buy a new shirt that you'll probably never wear again, but at least your coworkers won't know you pulled an all-nighter! (Uhm, have you seen .) It's stressful figuring out how to be an adult—a real adult—while at the same time figuring out what you want from life: from your career, from your friends, and from relationships.So don't put too much pressure on yourself to find the love of your life right now, and treat dating as both a fun activity and a learning opportunity. You thought you were broke in college, and maybe you were—except you probably also had a nice-enough dorm room, an all-you-can-eat cafeteria, and a social life consisting mostly of free parties and campus events.Now, you have an adult job but also rent to pay, groceries to buy, and bar tabs to settle.Guys may be used to the idea of paying for their dates' meals and drinks and tickets, but it's possible that the guys you date after college cannot afford to be chivalrous.Which is fine, because it's 2013, and you're more than able to step up to the plate.
Stick to cheaper restaurants (falafel can be romantic! Every once in a while, you'll choose not to do the responsible thing and will stay out all night, despite having work the next morning.
(I certainly had never gone on a date date until after college graduation.) But asking someone out on a date is actually great because, in the Real World, your chances of running into them again aren't always as high as when you used to share a cafeteria with everyone on campus.
A date can be a movie, a drink, a cup of coffee, a trip to see that cool exhibit at the art museum you'd been talking about, a quick trip to the food trucks during your lunch hour, a long walk.
And this is where the Gap comes in, because the Gap opens at 9 A.
M., and there's probably one not far from where you work. For some people, the first post-college years are more difficult, more tumultuous, than even adolescence.