(When I say CLOSE I mean that the girl wants a second date with you.I don’t mean that you actually have to go out with 90% of the girls you meet on a second date. (Sorry all questions cannot be answered.) Question: Mr. Rx, I read your column about rapport a few weeks ago. The most important thing is to ask questions that elicit emotional response not just social, friendly, calm, or logical answers. Rx is the author of the popular Dating To website and the author of the popular book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z”. Send it to [email protected] To and it may be selected for answer in this column. Answer: Yes, one can establish rapport by asking questions and getting answers.He is not really there to ascertain the information about the TV.He is really there to prove to his wife that “he is the boss” and can determine what they spend money on, or he is really there to reward himself for working hard, because “no one else does” or he is really there to spite his boss whom he hates and show his boss who is coming over next week that he is “a better person”.
However, I only want to go out with about 5% of the girls I meet-not because they are not pretty but because I am beyond that – all the girls I date are pretty, but I am looking for a certain personality that is a good prospect for marriage and I won’t settle for anything less.) Though I will go into each of these complex interactions of relationships and personalities elsewhere, for now, let us stay focused for the moment on the commonalities we find in any of the above relationships and how to relate to women.
BUT, Lucky for you the Commonalities of how to relate to women are MUCH MORE IMPORTANT than the situational variables.
Because the big mistakes you make in relating to people and women are violating BASIC common principles.
THROW that on top of the different types of relationships and you already have a complicated mess. (If you read my article about meeting women in bars when I was 25, you will know what I am talking about) THIS is what most DATING GURUS don’t tell you. 90% of the women I get a first date with, I get and second and third if I want.
NO WONDER the DATING GURUS don’t tackle how to relate to women! They learn one strategy that works in one situation, tell you about it and then tell you it is a numbers game. 99% of the woman who go out with me on a second date with me want a relationship with me.