I think my drive home that night was the turning point in my newly separated life.
In a few short hours, I’d gone from thinking my romantic opportunities were over to realizing that a new part of my life was just beginning. Although, let’s be honest, I looked at my cell phone every three seconds the next day.
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“Uh…sure…” I said, seriously still not getting the fact that he liked me. We kissed for a long time and then he asked me for my phone number.Maybe you hate yourself a little bit because of that.Being in such a volatile and unhealthy relationship had really taken a toll on how I felt about myself. Hello 40’s: This might apply to any woman, married or divorced, but it’s hard to ignore the number 40.When i was recently separated, I was sitting around one night and I got a call from a friend of mine, asking me to meet her, her husband and “some of his work buddies” at a local bar. I walked out the door in a pair of jeans that I probably couldn’t get one leg into today, and a sleeveless top that showed off my slim (at the time) arms.My kids were on vacation with my ex, so I had no child care issues. When I walked into the bar, my friend came rushing over to me.The two of us would end up talking for the next two hours!What was funny about the whole night was, it never occurred to me that he was interested in me.He was not attractive, and I felt like he approached me because he was curious to talk to “the divorced girl.” A few minutes later, another man approached me.My heart stopped when I saw him because he was seriously drop dead gorgeous. He introduced himself with a huge grin that almost gave me a heart attack.Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.Or, maybe you are the one who wants out of the marriage.I was a newly separated divorced girl who had gone from hopeless, insecure and timid, to confident, poised and ready to face the world as an older version of my best self. By the way, I’m pretty happy in life right now, and I’ve gained back the 10 pounds.I always tell people, it’s such a shame that you lose weight when you are unhappy. It didn’t matter how skinny I was, I was the big 4-1.