I used to feel like I was the wallpaper that would peel in the background when I’m in a room full with a thousand people.
While I’m not a huge advocate of , I did notice that the less time I spent chasing affection and validation, the more I received in return, when I focused on growing myself as a person.
Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.Rather than saying Long story short, she was receiving a lot of messages from men who expressed their disdain at her choice for wanting to identify as a feminist.It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.This product of social conditioning rears its ugly head online even more so, as an average of seven men compete for the attention of one woman.According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.some ugly truths we must all be aware of and conquer before we embark on a journey to find “the one.” This is one of the biggest truths about online dating nobody wants to admit.From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.But what if you don’t have any chances or opportunities in your day to day life?While it does require less effort for women to get responses from the opposite sex, they’re not really in the best position, as they have to dig through a lot of junk before they find any substance.Headlines are just as important as the content in your message.But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.