Even though dating has always been my priority, I haven’t really done much of it because of convenience.I’ve developed some bad dating habits from Tinder and Grindr, and they’ve gotten me into trouble without realizing it.These younger guys were the ones they liked in college, so now they pursue people who they have sentimental feelings for.They don’t have as much of a head on their shoulders as my generation or the younger generation.” – Mike*“I identify as queer or bisexual, but I prefer queer because it has more to do with my politics than my sexuality.If I’m in a space, and women know I’ve been with guys, they think I’ll leave them for a guy.For guys, if they find out I’m bisexual, the first thing they want to do is see me hook up with chicks. Just because I’m bisexual, doesn’t mean I’m open to everything.” – Emma“I think my experiences have been mostly with dating.In terms of sexuality, the generation younger than me is way more open, and the older generation is still more closeted.A lot of college guys complain that older men try to pursue them more, which doesn’t seem as predatory to me because I know that a lot of these guys I see at bars are dressed professionally, are definitely businessmen, have probably been in relationships with women, and have repressed these feelings for a while.
I wasn’t out until I went to college, and I had all of these insecurities because everyone has girl crushes, right?
Vassar is a pretty good place to be “not straight.” It’s very strange as a person who’s not straight but not gay, because it’s kind of a numbers thing— there are still more straight men on campus than “not straight” women.
Most of my hooking up experiences have been with male-identifying people, so I often find myself trying to hype up my [limited] experiences with women or with other queer people.
Last month, we debunked some myths surrounding the “hook-up culture” on campuses. Sociologist Paula England told us that 26% of students are dating before hooking up.
While 91% of college students think their campus is dominated by it, only 28% actively participate. Then, we talked to real college students about their own preferences when it comes to dating and hook-up culture.