He wants to invite all of his family (50 people, at least), and invite my husband’s ex, too. I have been taking medication for anxiety already, due to my stepdaughter’s suffering and death.
I feel I cannot handle that many people at my home!
Please try to see your husband’s ex not as his former spouse, but as a grieving parent.
You should work with your therapist to come up with strategies to deal with this, both beforehand and on the day.You don’t have to be modest or conservative to know what’s appropriate in a public setting with people you don’t even know. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or “like” her on Facebook.The Addison Police Department and Addison Fire Protection District are conducting their annual rapid response training at Addison Trail High School on Tuesday, July 17.I have knowledge of one of her social media accounts where I can contact her.Should I contact her through that medium, or just let sleeping dogs lie?I really thought that we clicked, but I don’t want to go into the “stalker” territory and not see a “no” if it is there. DEAR WONDERING: Yes, I think you are being “ghosted.” Ghosting, for those people fortunate enough not to have experienced it, is a very sudden and unexplained withdrawal from contact, although ghosting usually refers to an actual relationship, not a possible relationship.Another modern concept, “bread-crumbing” is the despicable practice of basically messing with someone by throwing down little bread crumbs of (digital) interest, without ever consummating an actual “meet.” Just as modern life makes it easy to connect, it is also easier to disconnect, with few consequences. Dear Quote Investigator: Some individuals change their political orientation as they grow older.This saying is often attributed to the French statesman and historian François Guizot who died in 1874. However, QI has not located the quotation under investigation in the writings of Burke. The same quotation with an ascription to Batbie appeared in volume five of the “La Grande Encyclopédie” which was published circa 1888. A section about a prominent jurist and academic named Anselme Polycarpe Batbie included the following passage. Batbie, dans une lettre trop célèbre, citait un jour, pour expliquer ses variations personnelles et bizarres, ce paradoxe de Burke: « Celui qui n’est pas républicain à vingt ans fait douter de la générosité de son âme; mais celui qui, après trente ans, persévère, fait douter de la rectitude de son esprit. Batbie, in a much-celebrated letter, once quoted the Burke paradox in order to account for his bizarre political shifts: “He who is not a républicain at twenty compels one to doubt the generosity of his heart; but he who, after thirty, persists, compels one to doubt the soundness of his mind.” Batbie was probably referring to the statesman Edmund Burke who was noted for his support of the American Revolution and later condemnation of the French Revolution.You being quietly supportive from the background — and then quietly exiting on the day might be a good solution for everyone.DEAR AMY: I’m confused at your labeling “Still Shocked” as “modest and conservative” because she objected to “Rhonda” displaying her breasts at a public dinner table. Readers may send postal mail to Amy Dickinson, c/o Tribune Content Agency, LLC., 16650 Westgrove Dr., Suite 175, Addison, TX 75001.However, this ascription was based in an entry in “Benham’s Book of Quotations Proverbs and Household Words” which was published many years after the death of Guizot; hence the supporting data is not very strong.