And that’s where my frustration with online dating comes in.
Before I get too far, I need to say: I think online dating is a great option. I think it’s an exceptionally relevant way to help many singles connect with one another, because I am well aware of how hard it is to meet other like-minded single people.
But finding a gracious and appropriate answer to these kind people has been difficult for me. Over the past few years, the Lord has shut the door on several relationships that ended before they really began.
Most people aren’t comfortable with the answer “Because I don’t want to.” But that is the answer, after all. Waiting to share your life with someone when you’re lonely is really, really hard. I believe He has protected me, I’m grateful, despite my obvious frustration.
There have been times in my life in relationships, in planning my future, in my career and beyond where I have done just that and knew it was the right decision. Inevitably, online dating results in dates, and I just don’t know that I’m willing to invest time and energy dating people, as a result of my own doing, with the knowledge that the Lord really hasn’t encouraged me in it. I feel called to live my life and pursue my career and invest my energy in things that are going to bring me joy, not things that are going to be stressful and frustrating.
If you see someone you like, simply "wave" at them.I have to believe that if I were supposed to meet my spouse right now on an online dating site, He would compel me to sign up.I wouldn’t feel such disinterest and indolence about the process.There are frequent gatherings in restaurants, bars, churches, museums or country walks.The Christian Connection discussion boards are a popular way to share stories, advice and opinions about life as a single Christian.I’m not online dating because I just don’t really want to. I don’t think it’s in the Lord’s plan for me right now. But in the meantime, He really hasn’t opened the door to any others, despite the fact that I’m interacting with a rather large network of peers on a fairly regular basis.We’re a society who loves results and loves taking matters into our own hands. I believe that God compels us to take action when necessary. And the truth is, I don’t want to open doors to relationships myself that are likely to just be closed again.I tried online dating for a brief time several years ago and make no promises that I won’t do it again at some point.I have friends who have met their spouse or significant other as a result of online dating.Outside of church and work, it's often difficult to find places to meet other single Christians — online Christian dating solves this problem.Christian Connection lets you meet other Single Christians who are also looking for a relationship.Christian Connection runs regular events where you can meet other single Christians in a fun, relaxed environment.You can also discover local events near you on our free dating meetup board, or create your own meetup!It’s a great tool and I have no doubt that God uses it to connect couples on the regular.