On the other hand, you should not be asking permission from your child to date someone. Putting your child in the role of parental decision maker is not healthy for either of you.
When it comes to dating after divorce, parents are in the driver's seat.
What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.
If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.
Regarding Your Co-Parent Do I have to tell my co-parent when I am dating?
I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.
This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.
This roller coaster ride is hard enough for adults. The other side of this is that children are often not all that nice to people their parents are dating.
And why would you want to expose your new friend to that?