Take a moment to consider your options before agreeing, Lowenstein suggested. Nice people, however, tend to get 100 percent absorbed in such things, to the point they no longer have their own life.
"It’s a warning sign that you need to go out, pronto, and get a hobby," said Stone. Make your own life a priority, even if it means working less hours, seeing your SO fewer times a week, or occasionally canceling on friends.
But there are definitely some signs you're being too nice, and it can unfortunately cause some problems.
Think of all the times you've felt like a doormat, or agreed to something you didn't have time for, or got stuck in a way-too-long conversation with someone at the grocery store.
Nice people tend to attract users — partners who are lazy, friends who always need help moving, family members who constantly have a favor to ask.
Do you ever agree to something and then think, "Wait, why did I just say that?"As we become less afraid of what we’re experiencing inside ... Take a look at that planner of yours, suggested Meiss.we become less intimidated by rejection and more empowered to love and be loved," said John Amodeo, Ph. How much of your calendar is filled up with stuff for you, versus stuff for other people?"If you bend over backwards over and over and never get anything in return, you’re acting like a doormat, not being nice," said Elizabeth Stone on Thought I'll say it again — there's nothing wrong with being nice.The only time it's bad is when you it brings on a sense of resentment, or overwhelm.If the ratio is skewed wildly in the favor of other people, it may be a sign you're being too nice.Start valuing your time by portioning out your calendar evenly between your personal life, social life, and work life.Everything becomes "sorry this" and "sorry that," often to the point where it loses its meaning.And when that happens, you're not doing anyone any favors by asking for forgiveness, according to an article on Elite These things happen to everyone, but they especially happen to nice people.That's because nice people often don't know how to say no, and they certainly don't know how to stand up for themselves.You're simply trying to appease your own (often imagined) guilt. This means you can't even apologize when someone else bumps into you.It'll show you how often sorries gets thrown around, and hopefully help you to scale back."To know if you’ve crossed that fine line from kind to compulsive people-pleaser, pay attention to how you feel — in the moment and later," said Kate Lowenstein on Huffington Post.com, in an interview with psychologist Linda Tillman, Ph. If you feel a burning sense of resentment after agreeing to something, then it's a good sign you said yes out of obligation, and not because you actually wanted to.