But I’ve noticed a new strategy among my set of female friends—lovely, intelligent, independent women—to combat the grime of the online dating world: date up. More and more women I know are dating men twice, yes , Anne Hathaway stands with Robert De Niro and a bunch of young male colleagues in a bar and draws a harsh comparison: “How in one generation have men gone from guys like Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford to . I see what Hathaway means: Why put up with Tinder when there’s a whole generation of men out there who wouldn’t dream of using it?There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet.Researchers don't say why, but perhaps it's for the reasons researchers Caron, a professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Maine, and Proulx, a marriage and family therapist, of the 2006 study discovered -- society just isn't ready to accept December-May marriages as easily as it does May-December marriages. Robinson out of our mind, or maybe it's because there just aren't that many of them.
All of which should make boomer and senior men happy indeed.While their 15-year age gap probably has nothing to do with Ashton's alleged infidelity -- you're either a cheater or you're not -- the odds may have been stacked against them from the beginning.That's because marriages in which the woman is much older than her husband often lead to divorce.would have you believe, is evolving into an elaborate charade of deception: Everybody is petrified of giving someone the “wrong idea.” Men are impolite to the point of viciousness to ensure that the women they just hooked up with understand they don’t want a relationship.Women “self-objectify” in profile pictures to get men interested, renouncing the “wrong idea” that they might want something more than a one-night stand.But perhaps not boomer women who are looking for love.A Stanford study confirms what they already know: The older a man is when he marries after age 40, the greater the likelihood his wife will be a lot younger -- whether he's rich and educated or not.Not to say that they're not happy for a while -- certainly Demi and Ashton have appeared to be, as well as the eight couples in a 2006 study by Sandra L. Proulx in which the wives were a decade or more older than their husbands (an admittedly small sample).Still, the women in the study admitted to a certain insecurity about aging, which is just never going to be a good thing in a relationship.Judgment aside, marriages in which the wife is older than her husband are more likely to be troubled -- and the age difference doesn't have to be all that big.In fact, couples in which the wife is just five years older are three times more likely to divorce than couples of the same age.Some studies say if a wife is five or more years younger than her hubby, they're much more likely to avoid divorce.Others say she needs to be four to six years younger.Plus, the couples felt stigmatized by others, especially the wives -- and those judgments may even impact a woman's mortality.