But unlike ESFP, INFJs can have difficulty fitting into the modern working world and making a lot of money.Moreover, INFJs are slower to pair with S-types, for whom earning money often comes rather naturally. They may desire, perhaps even envy, the ESP lifestyle, but they aren’t willing to sell their Ni soul to obtain it. And while forming quick friendships and extensive connections may be the goal for some extraverts, for INFJs, this is not the point at all.
While rarely wearing their openness on their sleeves, as ENFPs are wont to do, INFJs can be surprisingly open to unique or less conventional relational practices.They relish the chance to share their wisdom, theories, and insights.Unfortunately, they often find that most people (especially S types) fail to fully comprehend or appreciate their theories and insights.Yet another misunderstanding is the claim that INFJs “read into things that are not there” or “make mountains out of molehills.” Such accusations can be troubling for INFJs, since reading into things by way of their Ni is what they are born to do.In many cases, such accusations derive not from any wrongdoing on the part of the INFJ, but from the assumptions or ego sensitivities of their partners. ” or “You don’t seem yourself today” INFJs are trying to gather more information in order to better understand their partner.Take away the cake, however, and the icing is meaningless.Another common misunderstanding is that the INFJ is controlling or closed-minded.The title of David Keirsey’s book, Please Understand Me, aptly expresses what INFJs are seeking in their relationships. Considering their status as the rarest of all personality types, this comes as little surprise.There are numerous misunderstandings about INFJs that could potentially hamper their dating and relational success.But just because INFJs are quicker to express their emotions does not make them any needier than FP types.In fact, since most men (i.e., TP males) use Fe rather Fi, they might appreciate the fact that, when paired with an INFJ, they needn’t guess about what their partner is feeling.No relationship can be optimally navigated without an adequate understanding of each partner’s “weak spots.” The inferior can be problematic because it is both alluring and underdeveloped.It is like a child who desperately wants to get behind the wheel of a car because driving looks like so much fun.This typically stems from INFJs’ tendency to extravert Judging (Fe).