Your brain is the perfect matchmaker when it comes to picking out the perfect match for you. Plus expect to mislead a few people too because you’ll act one way one day and the other way the next. If all you did was put up exceptional photos and did nothing else, you would still get plenty of messages from men. When women get “wordy” they tend to make a list of what they want, don’t want and it can quickly turn into a rant session. Even if a decent guy reads your list and checks all of your boxes, he’s going to stay away.
You will often know within minutes of meeting whether there is “chemistry” or not. to not only figure out your compatibility level but also your natural chemistry with someone. The problem with this is you won’t get QUALITY messages. I understand the temptation to shoot from your most “flattering” angles, and straight on angles will not always give you that. But contrary to what you may believe, a woman’s “body size” is not what sticks out the most in a man’s eyes. So if you want to attract more men, despite your size, think about what kind of “attitude” you’re showing off in the photo. Who wants to date someone with that much pressure put on them? A man’s more likely to assume you’re a catch and fill in the rest with his imagination.
If you’ve just started online dating or you’re getting lackluster results from it, don’t worry! Each message will be tailored to the individual they decide to message because they want you to respond, they want to get to know you and if all goes well, take you on a proper date!
I made this mistake too and it took me one year of “online dating” before I figured out the problem. Good quality photos will also increase the chance of men responding to your messages. Any less and you’re drastically lowering your chances to get messages. A woman’s perspective of her own photo is often DIFFERENT from a man’s perspective. Decent men wouldn’t think to do these things in the first place. However bad men would see this as a “way in”, because clearly you’ve attracted this type in the past, which means you’re more likely to respond again! Highlighting your kids is just as bad as putting something negative there. You should be filtering men based on their profile and their message to you.So, why not start with a bad stuff – I am impulsive and restless at times, I can’t kill a fly, I cried twice like a girl when I watched “Notebook,” I cuss too often, and stay up way too late way too often. And what made you weak in your knees from joy and pleasure? There is something about the nighttime that I find magic, if you will, which keeps me up working or hanging out aimlessly. I have little patience for flakes and fake people – those who smile while being angry on the inside, as I never know what they keep up their sleeve. About You: You are curious about the world around you. However, there is a RIGHT way and a WRONG way to use it. Those who use the tool correctly will of course, get the best results. Fewer than 100 words and you risk sounding rushed, generic and not likely to engage in a decent conversation.This is one of those areas where you truly get back what you put in! This section may be called different things on different dating sites. Please do not underestimate the importance of this area! The fewer words you say, the more a man has reason to judge you and possibly dismiss you.I am sure that you have already found this about two hundred times in all the other profiles. First Date: I don’t think it matters what we do on a first date, and I am a big fan of simplicity, so a coffee and walk would be just fine.” This is just one example of a profile that will stand out as different and arguable better than most other pages written by guys on the online dating sites.I believe that words are cheap, but actions speak much louder, so why bother? It has a strong, unique beginning, interesting content, and a few questions at the end to “help” a woman start her response.When I met my husband online, we were long distance for the first three months of our relationship. Ever gotten messages like “Hi or hey” or some sexual comment about the way you look? That’s why writing a good profile is also important. You’d be surprised how many women list they’re fun and positive, yet at the end list what kind of men should stay away. Unless you want to scare good men away and only attract douchebags. If your profile sounds cheesy and cliché, that is still 10x better than sharing one single negative comment about men. I get you need to tell everyone how much you love your kids and they mean the world to you. First of all any guy would figure that out by reading the Status section of your profile.It sucked because although we were very compatible texting and speaking on the phone, I couldn’t be 100% sure we had chemistry until we met in person. So first rule of thumb: once surface level compatibility is established, meet in person as soon as possible! However, I don’t want to get to that yet without mentioning your photos. When you write things like: You’ll only attract the very kind of men you DON’T want. This is the part that lists your race, height, age, location etc.So, lets look at a few typical examples of bad profiles: “I am not good at writing about myself, but my friends say that I am intelligent, professional, educated and ambitious. I am looking to a meet an intelligent, beautiful woman for dating and relationship.” – at first, this looks like a well-written profile by a guy who seems to have head on his shoulders. There is nothing “catchy” about this profile – there is nothing that would compel a reader to stop and respond to it.However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. Lets look at another bad profile: “I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.” – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.” “I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies.If you want to boast about your writing abilities, ask men to message you for a sample.This works a LOT better than using the About Me section to “show off”.I’m fit, sweet, caring and down to earth person, I love outdoor activities, camping, fishing, hiking, rock climbing, bush walking and also travelling, love bars and restaurants as well, and some of my passion is cooking love to cook food with my family and friends. So you’re naturally more friendly and approachable. When you say you want to meet new people, you imply you’re friendly and approachable.